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Sober Confessions: Navigating the Party Town Without a Drink

Written by: Aidan | Published on: 18 January, 2025

Yesterday was Friday— the last working day of the week for me. Normally, it’s a day I look forward to going home, taking a long nap, or finishing up some articles. That’s what a typical Friday looks like, right? Or so I thought.

Last night, I happened to be in town until late evening, just as the nightlife was coming alive. The first thing I noticed was the lighting— the streets suddenly glowed with bright, colourful lights. I tried tracing their source, but until now, I’m still just as confused. The other thing I noticed was the drastic change in the dress code. In the blink of an eye, official attire was replaced with miniskirts and ripped jeans. Now, before you ask— I’m not judging, just observing.

Earlier that day, I had overheard some of my friends making plans to go out to a club, or as they called it, a "joint." They asked if I was interested, and I gave them the classic non-committal answer: “I’ll let you know.” We all know what that really means.

But later, curiosity got the best of me. I decided to call them and ask for the location. I wanted to understand what made nightlife so fascinating. When I arrived at the club entrance, I noticed two huge guys— bouncers, I assumed. I stood there waiting, expecting to be frisked or asked for an ID. But nothing. Not that I have a baby face or anything, but aren’t underage teens supposed to be restricted from clubs? Again, I don’t look like a teenager, but at least pretend to check.

Instead, one of the bouncers roughly said, “Buda, kama unaingia, ingia— si kuzubaa hapa kama chokoraa.” That was my cue.

Inside, bright flashing lights and loud music filled the space— no surprises there. It took me a while to spot my friends, and from a distance, they looked genuinely happy, sipping from their glasses. As I approached, they cheered loudly— probably the happiest they had ever been to see me. I was welcomed and given a seat at the table.

There were two bottles on the table: "Decanal Merlot" and "Viceroy." I was informed that the ladies were drinking wine, while the guys were having brandy. The atmosphere was lively and carefree— I could see why people enjoyed it.

But then came the moment of truth. I declined a drink, and my friends looked at me as if I had just admitted to a serious illness. "Are you sick?" one of them asked, genuinely concerned.

Now, I don’t know about you, but since when did not drinking require a medical excuse? Still, I played along. "Yeah, my stomach is acting up," I replied. That seemed to satisfy them, and they even wished me a quick recovery— alcohol-induced empathy, I assumed.

By 10 PM, it was time to go home. To my surprise, my friends insisted on walking me to my bus stop. I was the sober one remember? Their reason? "You’re sick." I had almost forgotten that I was, but at that moment, it was hilarious.

So, my six friends and I made our way to the bus station, and I boarded my matatu home. I wasn’t sure how they managed to get back, but I called each one later, and they assured me they had made it safely.

Reflecting on the night, a few questions stuck with me. Has drinking become so normalized that you need an excuse not to do it? And does it have to be every Friday?

But the most important question that’s been on my mind is: What excuse will I use next Friday when my friends invite me out again?